We’ve all been in this situation: We go on a great first date, head home, and immediately start planning the next rendezvous. Waiting three days to reply to someone after a successful date prevents people from looking too eager or desperate, but the technique, thanks to dating apps and other modern conveniences, is becoming obsolete.We glance at our phone every 30 seconds in hopes of a text, or a call from our date, and grow impatient by their radio silence. In retrospect, if we were genuinely interested in our date, why didn’t we text first? In reality, it takes only seconds or minutes to text or call someone, even for the busiest professional.Just trying to find the time and the coordinating of schedules sometimes requires a Herculean effort.
You have to get off auto-pilot and get into “meet mode” by looking for opportunities everywhere you go.Reality television shows based on dating competition such as “The Bachelorette” help us grasp the idea that mate competition, or intersexual selection, is an evolutionary process.When it comes to sexual selection, where mate choice exists, one sex is competitive with the same sex, while the other sex is choosy, or selective, when it comes to picking individuals with whom to mate.We probably all do it, to some degree, but the question still remains whether we should.So, is wanting what we can’t have a mating strategy we’ve adopted?