But I never told my bestie that we were spending time together, let alone that we were growing close. My best friend and I have been besties since the fourth grade. She was with this guy for four years, up until early May of this year, when he suddenly decided to break up with her. I started hanging out with him about two weeks later, at first thinking I was just being someone to talk to.You can also ask her about her dating life and openly talk about your own.Just be sure to keep the conversation light (otherwise you risk become her “therapist”) and positive (i.e. Talking about your dating life and how none of the girls you’ve met have measured up can then be your segue to expressing your desire to date her.When a close friend is dating someone you don’t like, what do you do?
They wholeheartedly believe that it's wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they'd never talk to that person again.I don’t say this to judge or to blame, but I think it is important to be clear about what has been happening.She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.