It’s a balmy night in Manhattan’s financial district, and at a sports bar called Stout, everyone is Tindering.The tables are filled with young women and men who’ve been chasing money and deals on Wall Street all day, and now they’re out looking for hookups.Suzanne, a young woman in San Francisco, met a man—call him John—on the dating site OKCupid. More notably, he indulged in the kind of profligate displays of affection which signal a definite eagerness to commit.He sneaked Suzanne’s favorite snacks into her purse as a workday surprise and insisted early on that she keep a key to his apartment. V.—an act roughly equivalent, in today’s gallantry currency, to Perseus rescuing Andromeda from the sea monster.Just like some say that sex begins in the brain, so does dating.The positivity or negativity of your thoughts about dating and the opposite sex can affect your demeanor, actions and even what you allow to manifest.All of them had received the couch-spooning treatment.
(John, who was white, pursued only Asian women, leaving his girlfriends with the icky sense that they’d been fetishized as well as deceived.) Still, romantic scammers aren’t an invention of modern courtship and its digital devices.
Think of examples of the many women who have gotten married in their late 30’s and much later and you will know this limiting belief is not always true. ‘There are no single men in NYC’ This one is ridiculous. You may not meet them on the street or in the supermarket.
You may have to look on dating sites or at meet ups and make some effort.
I get that, so I can’t steer individuals away from these options.
Still, what bothers me is that it seems too often services like these don’t accurately portray the person.