If you don't use these you may be viewed as arrogant or disrespectful, or uppity. -If someone has had surgery, a new baby or a death in the family, organize the neighbors to all take turns fixing dinner for the affected family. Several fundamental tenets of southern manners: -Be humble - Always put others first and yourself last ("after you..."). Acting uppity, selfish, or self-centered are certainly not good manners. I asked them how do I benefit and they couldn't even answer. If you don't want to spend the money, don't ask her out. Date women in Houston or Austin and I guarantee the women will be much more down to earth.I have noticed they are more "accommodating" with a certain act, but still. Yes, the first couple dates they always offer and I decline that.So, if you want to know more about southern culture, are planning a trip to or within the South, are planning to move to the South, or are from the South and need to brush up on your manners, then this article is here to help.Remember that good manners are not reserved for special occasions.Here are two of my favorite 'personal writings' I have found written in the South during the 19th century: Social Life in Old New Orleans, Being Recollections of my Girlhood by Ripley, Eliza Moore Chinn Mc Hatton, 1832-1912 The Secret Eye- The Journal of Ella Gertrude Caltnon Thomas 1848-1889 published by The University of North Carolina Press Chapel Hill 1989.I hope this will satisfy the requirement for a reference for any part of my southern themed webpage.
-Behave yourself - When in public, don't be rude, brash, loud, uncouth, coarse, or cause a commotion. So from the cradle to the grave, women strove to make men pleased with themselves, and the satisfied men repaid lavishly with gallantry and adoration.In fact, men willingly gave the ladies everything in the world, except credit for having intelligence.Scarlett exercised the same charms as Melanie but with a studied artistry and consummate skill.The difference between the two girls lay in the fact that Melanie spoke kind and flattering words from a desire to make people happy, if only temporarily, and Scarlett never did it except to further her own aims.” ― Margaret Mitchell, “You have to understand that women in the South, women of Southern blood, just don't partake in scandalous adventures--- and when we do, it's in a discreet manner.