A late arrival into the world of social media, I nevertheless embraced it as a kind of escape.While my husband spent most evenings catching up on the horse racing he'd recorded over the weekend, I began perusing chatrooms – not in pursuit of cybersex necessarily, but initially more for harmless flirtation, a little virtual attention.I asked: The feedback and insights from the Sixty and Me community are always enlightening and this is especially true when it comes to matters of the heart.Here are a few of the main points on the minds of women who are grappling with the challenges and opportunities of finding love after 60: Many women in their 60s have been hurt, divorced or widowed.The key things to stress now are honesty with your husband and figuring out what works for you.Part of what’s difficult at present is that you are faced with the prospect of giving up a life you love for a life you don’t yet know.What’s holding me back is the disruption of everything.My husband is a good guy, and if this were happening to a friend, he would be understanding and nonjudgmental, but it’s going to affect his self-image. Frankly, I really love my life right now, and I don’t know how I’ll recover from its loss, and if it’s worth pursuing the “love that dare not speak its name.” I read other late-in-life blogs and websites and Facebook posts, and I could get through all of what they’re bemoaning, but hurting the two people closest to me—well, how do I manage that? You are not a few steps away from the grave, most likely; you’ve conceivably got another 40 years ahead of you and should bear in mind that life (and your relationship with your son and the father of your child) is long.
That's why is so much more potent: Instant access to our lover is in our pocket, our purse, or laptop. We can do it while the kids are playing in the backyard or our partner is downstairs watching TV or cooking dinner.I was a latecomer to counselling, having previously considered therapy a largely American pursuit. By the time I reached that landmark age, without children and in a marriage that was beginning to lose its fairytale glow, my daily life was beginning to feel not unlike a soap opera. And I did, pretty much, and I was perfectly fine - until suddenly I wasn't.It may be that you two will figure out a way to redefine your partnership within the context of marriage.It may be that he will be hurt, and grieved, and angry, and you will go through a painful divorce.