You're likely to be a woman landing on this page, but I could be wrong of course! Few (straight) men seem to do searches about women being scared of commitment!
You probably have a non-committal partner and want to know how to 'make' him commit.
I have the usual frustrations with bad dates, vapor trails, and the men who are just emotionally available enough to keep me around but won’t let anything progress, but I’ve learned to accept this as part of the ride.
But I’m very emotionally sensitive and naturally very defensive, and it’s killing me.
How about really getting to know him before you introduce him to 348 Facebook followers? Another behavior that strikes fear into the hearts of men is the woman who wants to spend every waking moment with the guy she's just started dating. If something comes up and a guy has to change your date from Tuesday to Thursday, the worst thing you can do is to not be understanding about it.
Changing that status from "single" to "in a relationship" after two weeks of dating? Hoover Girl: "Hey, I've got great plans for us Friday, Saturday and Sunday! Life happens -- and not being flexible when obstacles arise will send a signal that you may be just a little too difficult for his liking. Men we talked to said they wanted their date to not just agree with everything they said -- but to have their own opinions about various issues, matters, etc. Also noted: If a man senses you are just going to "glom" onto him and don't have any particular passions (or a life) of your own, you can pretty much count on this being the first and only date.
I'll speed through the wider context to get to the personal.
It’s been up, and down, and absolutely wonderful and then total hell.
I’m 34, attractive to people who like my physical type, and I do okay – many men like me, and I like some of them back.
To keep you from heading down that tragically depressing rabbit hole, Once a guy commits, he will lose the chance to date other women.
Most guys try to hold on to this opportunity as long as they can, especially when they are not sure what they are looking for, which leads us to..."Committing" means "growing up" to some guys.