Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.
And this couldn’t be more true when it comes to contacting someone online.
I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.
But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.
We have combined our own research with a 2009 Ok Trends study to develop comprehensive advice for sending your first message.
In the study, Ok Cupid analyzed 500,000 first messages on their website to determine which ones had the best response rates. First and foremost we would like to stress the importance of proper spelling and grammar.
Your first message determines the initial impression you make, and only about one-third of first messages even receive a reply.
A common theme of success in sending your message is to be intelligently casual.
Tone down the Netspeak Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.A thought-provoking, fun, playful message that stands out from the crowd of “hey, baby what's up” and “hi” messages from all the losers who haven't read our blog. Make it easy for her to respond by asking a question in your message.Once you come up with a few good ones, test them out and keep the winners. And here's where the copy/paste strategy comes into play.To look at it a different way, using a template message is 75 percent as effective as creative a custom message, and a hell of a lot faster.Of course, we here at Vi DA have been saying that since 2010, but it’s always nice to have an irrefutable data source on our side…If you want better results in less time, copy/paste is hands-down the way to go.(Further reading: This section of ‘Dataclysm’ reprinted on NYMag.com)Sounds great, but I still need a message…No, what you really need is an icebreaker.