There are two things to understand here, the “in my head” part and the “out in the world” part, and I didn’t understand either nearly well enough.
The longer this goes on, the more you’re becoming convinced more than ever that this whole dating/sex/talking to other people thing is something that do and you’d be better off weighing the pros and cons of a monastic life of quiet desperation and a poetic death via alcoholism interspersed with self-pitying and slightly arch animated gif parades on Tumblr or women being bitches or any number of other things I told myself to explain my failures away.
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Meanwhile, I had the “out in the world” part all wrong as well.
I saw the world as huge and daunting and over my head, and I took it as a given that luck played a large part in how things unfolded.