Much better than anxiously waiting by the phone, hoping he’ll come around one day. I’ve had the experience years ago where I was dating a girl and I wasn’t even all that into her at the beginning, but then when she started slipping away, something inside me made me obsess over it.Looking back on it, it wasn’t about my relationship with her – it was about the relationship I had with myself.The number one reason women have so much trouble getting themselves out of a position like this is because they fixate more and more attention on the guy as he gives less and less. I’m not talking about holding back or intentionally trying to manipulate a guy by “making him work for you” with games and tricks. What I do recommend is you recognize that you’re choosing the situation you’re in and that choice is looking more and more like an ineffective strategy in getting the guy to have a relationship with you in the way you want. Sure, he’ll say all sorts of nice things to you to keep you as invested as possible in him. After all, he doesn’t want a relationship, he doesn’t want a title, he doesn’t want to be exclusive.But the bottom line is: when a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you, believe him. So instead of chasing him and triggering his response to retreat, be the single woman he supposedly wants you to be…The way that the girl treated me meant something about me (in my mind). Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she's confused about how to proceed.Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).
If you’ve completely screwed things up by being needy, insecure, etc, and given everything so the guy doesn’t feel the need to commit to you anymore, is there any hope in hell of changing things around, considering the renewed attitude I received thanks to you guys?Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited. All the gifts and romantic moments are nice, but they are really just icing on the cake.