You start Internet stalking their new partner WAY too hard It’s funny how fast a simple “in a relationship” status can devolve into creeping on your ex’s new girlfriend’s sister’s wedding photos. For some reason your brain always tricks you into thinking that you’re in competition with the new person in your ex’s life, which is silly since A) she already has the ex and B) you don’t really want the ex anyways.It’s a slippery slope, and no matter how strong your self-control, eventually you’re gonna end up looking at her profile pictures and the profile pictures of everyone she’s known since 2009. The fix: It’s important to remember that your relationship ended for a reason, and that no matter how similar or different you are to the you-replacement, that isn’t going to change the fact that you and your ex weren’t a good match.Your ex broke up with you and left you heartbroken.And while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. Your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly.Seeing your ex girlfriend move on before, you yourself, are ready to take that next step, is a painful experience.It hurts to see someone who was once your closest companion moving on to new things and new people. Breakups hurt, and you’re going to need to acknowledge that some things are going to make you feel sad.If they’ve been in the relationship for a few months or less, then it’s probably a rebound and it will end soon.
The golden rule to a rapid breakup recovery: no contact. It can have a lot of positive effects on your life if you’re in a healthy relationship.
But sometimes my island refugees escape via social media raft and decide it’s time to tell Facebook all about their super awesome new relationships.
And then I want to escape to a remote, Internet-free island IRL.
The fix: My advice is to block them both the second the status appears. So stop comparing and start blocking, because she might be looking at your profile and thinking the same thoughts, and neither of you deserves to feel inferior.
It’ll keep you from creeping and you’ll move on faster if you don’t have the capability to dig deep into her past. You wonder if your ex’s family and friends are comparing you to this new partner, and then you wonder who’s ‘winning’ This is going to be difficult, especially if you were close to your ex’s family and friends.