We don’t feel any great need to search for our own soul — never mind for our soulmate. We need to learn to get satisfaction from giving, not from taking.When both people give to each other 100 per cent, the rewards are endless.Because people who are financially independent have greater choice in their lifestyle, they need to make up a laundry list of things that they want to find in a marriage. No need to keep count of who paid for what and who did what.Many people today feel smug about themselves — they rarely look to share their lives (less superficially than Facebook, anyway). We live in a pluralistic society, so today we tend to share the costs more than in previous years.Many people think that no one will ever be able to love them as much as they love themselves. This independence is incredible in almost every way, aside for the way we date.
Ask the questions you need to evaluate the opportunity or person objectively, but also be open to experiencing and learning about what else is out there.One of the Believer 's Best Books of the Year" One of the Nervous Breakdown's "Best Books of the Year" "The prodigiously inventive Smyles melds novel, autobiography, and all manner of asides as she flails at art, love, and friendship with the wry intelligence of someone just wise enough to realize they have no idea what they're doing.A flat-out joy to read." -O, The Oprah Magazine " Dating Tips for the Unemployed is a charming (yes, charming!), bravura performance by a writer whose comic chops, literary inventiveness, and crisp prose produce the smoothest of literary smoothies, something like a cocktail of Dorothy Parker, James Joyce, and Philip Roth iced, sweetened, and blended." -The Nervous Breakdown "Especially if you power through it in one sitting-or one 'lounging'-this collection of rambling and loose-jointed vignettes perfectly encapsulates the feeling of being mired in the strange muck of the late '20s and early '30s, stuck between 'fake adult' and 'actual adult.' Interspersed with amusingly bizarre vintage advertisements for books like Crafting With Cannoli Box String, Smyles' book feels like leafing through an extraordinary personal diary, at times both blunt and lyrical." - Elle, "8 Next-Level Beach Reads" "Whimsy, satire, and rollicking social commentary Ms.Smyles is a misanthrope-of-the-people, a standout on the order of Fran Lebowitz." -East Hampton Star "The title isn't just a cuteness, this is a practical book for impractical people.