Do you really want to be the rebound or the buffer between the old life and the new one? If you ask any layman that is it right to date a married man or woman, the obvious answer would be 'no'.In fact, it might help you get over the impending divorce and get on with life.When we think of online dating, we most likely think of sites for singles.Related: Is Playing Hard to Get a Turn ON or Turn OFF?I know guys use the "I'm separated" line all the time.The reason divorce lawyers counsel against dating while the divorce is pending, even if separated, is that it has the potential to increase both the cost and the stress of the divorce trial. Judges, however, rarely punish someone who begins dating – sexually or otherwise – once they have physically separated from their spouse.
But the morality of each person is very different and personal. You can date married men and women provided you are clear about what you want from the relationship.
I know people who are just separated are iffy potential partners on most occasions.
After all, there's a good chance that you get involved with that person and they drop that, "I'm getting back with my ex" bomb on you. And let's face it, there's a great risk in being the first new relationship for the soon-to-be divorcee.
It's an awful, soul-crushing rollercoaster and every time someone sarcastically remarks how easy it is for people to get divorced or how so-and-so "just left their marriage," my head feels like it's about to explode. However when I would reveal to someone in whom I was potentially interested that I was separated, they invariably would shy away.
Related: Why I Love (and Respect) Cougars There is, though, an emotional purgatory most couples need to work their way through before the final decision to end a marriage is made: the separation. As much as I wanted to shout out "Hey, that's really, seriously [email protected]" I sort of understood where there was room for reasonable reticence on their part.