recently) divorced, and you’re wondering if dating this man is a good idea. Some people might automatically say you shouldn’t date anyone who falls into this category, but I’m not a fan of telling someone whether they date someone. My approach is to help you get super realistic about what you want, and what you’re getting into, so that you can make your decision to stay or leave as as possible.
If you were to ask two people from, say, Belgium and Saudi Arabia, what they thought was an “acceptable” age difference when dating, then you’d obviously get very different answers based on cultural norms.
Here are some things to consider when dating the divorced guy versus dating a guy who has never said “I do.” 1. Then again, maybe I’m not giving the never been married guy enough credit. Just be aware that he’s never been married, so up until now, he hasn’t. He’s carrying way less baggage than the divorced guy.
When it comes to dating after divorce, the opposite of a divorced guy is a guy who has never been married! In my opinion, sometimes it feels like they are from different planets! Or, maybe he’ll run for the hills the first time he sees you sitting on the bathtub ledge clipping your toenails. Here’s a plus for the guy who has never tied the knot.
But if you are considering him as possible life-partner, it’s good to know what you’re getting into, so you can decide, very consciously, whether you want to wade into deeper levels of commitment with him.
Here are some questions to consider: Did he leave Was there infidelity? It’s good to know why they decided to split up and how the split went.