A painful breakup can cause you to fall into depression.
You miss your ex (even if you know the breakup is for the best), you're feeling miserable and crying often, or maybe you just feel numb and empty.
Self-reflection can be helpful, but be aware that too much self-reflection can become ruminating -- going over the same problems or regrets over and over, which can keep you stuck in depression rather than moving forward. Since you're more vulnerable to feeling rejected or upset if a date doesn't go well, make sure you plan activities with your friends after a date, and don't stake all of your happiness on the success of one date. Depression can make you very aware of your own inner pain and suffering -- your focus becomes overly internal.
Next, recognize that you don't always have to be 100 percent over your ex in order to start dating again. Make dating a fun part of your life rather than the center of it. This can make it hard to be truly interested in someone else.
I get at least several new clients every week who are so traumatized by a difficult break up that they have decided to seek therapy for the first time.
For people in their early twenties, the breakup may be the end of their first significant, meaningful, adult relationship.
These reason why couples break up will help you see your relationship differently. It’s helped thousands of couples find the love they need and solve different types of relationship problems.
But there are ways to cope with this feeling that don't involved crying into a carton of ice cream.
Here is a wiki How guide to coping with the depression after a break up.
When you're ready, ease back into dating by considering the following: 1. When you're depressed after a difficult breakup, it can be really hard to know when it is time to start dating again.
On one hand, you need to give yourself time to heal -- you may not be in a great place to date the first days or weeks after an intense breakup and it's okay and completely normal not to want to date.