Sometimes it seems like the universe just likes to laugh at your life.That's certainly the case when you find yourself attracted to your ex's friend!Telling Your Ex-Partner Maintaining Boundaries with Your Ex-Partner Fostering a Positive Relationship with the Best Friend Community Q&A Dating your ex-partner’s best friend can feel like a tricky situation, as you do not want to upset your ex-partner.If you have strong feelings for your ex’s best friend and you feel you both have a future together, you may want to figure out how you can date this person without conflict. Said ex probably likes people who share similar qualities (mountain biking! ) and you guys have probably all pal-ed around together for months, maybe even years; it makes that you might be attracted to ex's friend. For all you know, your ex just wasn't that into it and might be stoked to see you move on to someone who's better suited for you. Accusations and tears may flow as freely as the alcohol that you're likely consuming. Don't self loathe, wallow or spiral into misery, that's not gonna make anyone's pain go away and it sure as hell isn't going to pave a smooth foundation for your new love-fest. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up and been broken up with a lot — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her. Unless you're a terrible person, you probably don't want to trample your ex's heart in the process of nurturing your new flame. And, guess what, your new squeeze—who just might be a nice person! As noted journalist Mary Schmich once said, "don't be reckless with other people's hearts." There's no need to punch an innocent bystander in their tender bits because you've gotten burned or are pining for someone else. If you were the one who got dumped however, we think you have a little more leverage in pursuing your ex's pal; after all s/he didn't want you anymore, right? I don’t care if it’s a casual acquaintance, I don’t care if it’s your best friend in the whole world, and I don’t care who broke up with whom.
Simply say, “Look, I just thought you should know that (their exes name) and I have gone on a few dates.I do not know whether or not he is interested, but he was my shoulder through the breakup and has been with me through a lot. Is it a bad idea to pursue anything with the friend?Friends of The Ex can be very tricky, and because there are so many factors, there’s really no hard rule on how to go about the situation.Okay, so imagine your BFF just got out of a relationship with a super hot, great guy. No matter who dumped who, it’s a sensitive situation… If you’re willing to date your friend’s ex, then you’re probably not really friend’s with this “friend” of yours. No matter how much you like your friend’s Ex, you can always find someone else you like just as much – after all they broke up for a reason.It’s been a few months, and suddenly he’s flirting with… You’ve always had a little crush on him, ever since before they started dating, and now it looks like your chance to actually date him. and your friend is definitely going to be uncomfortable (if not furious) about seeing you with her ex. Trust me, dating the guy your best friend just dated is going to ruin your friendship, or at least put a serious strain on it. Emerald Says: There Are Plenty Of Other Guys Out There Why on Earth would you date your friend’s ex? Not only is it unethical (certainly not the same as, like, eating cute kitties for breakfast, but definitely on the list of unethical things), it’s also kind of icky. Melanie Says: No, But Because Of Him, Not Her A few years ago, a good friend of mine actually set me up with a guy friend of hers who she used to date.