You need to conscientiously force yourself to forge a new resolve and disengage from unhealthy relational dynamics before it gets worse.
It almost always gets worse, and most certainly gets worse without any intervention.
Jodi Arias – in my opinion, – a good example of a woman with quiet BPD (she functions superficially well but her chameleon-like façade breaks open once her relational views are challenged) murdered her ex-boyfriend Travis Alexander; Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction attempted to murder her former lover but failed and found her own death.
Most real-life relationships with a partner who has BPD are not deadly.
The propensity for abusiveness in those with BPD is instigated by the narcissistic injury that is at the heart of the core wound of abandonment Those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or those with BPD who may not even know they have it, are more likely than the general population to be verbally, emotionally/psychologically, physically abusive.Although I believe he probably still believes I’ll contact him again.It’s amazing, [Lauren.] The more time your away, they stronger you feel. I get those frightened moments when I think my new boyfriend will just Abandoned me out of nowhere. It makes sense to stay out of relationships if you’ve just escaped from an abusive one because of the PTSD you probably have or even worse problems such as major depression–you need time to find yourself and work on yourself.I understand why the Psychopathic free support group did not recommend a relationship right away. I also believe you have to be careful and choosy about your women friends and surround yourself with only kind people. My reply (My original reply was short–I embellished it when I wrote this post. You need time to be selfish and not have to answer to anyone because you’ve been giving, giving and giving some more with nothing to show for it in return.They know you suffer from PTSD from the aftermath of this abuse. We’re mentally and emotionally exhausted and need time to recover, just as if we’re recovering from any illness.