Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.
That's not an argument for or against divorce, for or against dating.
When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.
If you’re divorced, or have ended a long-term relationship, well-meaning relatives and friends may encourage you to start dating again soon.
But how will you know when you're ready for a new relationship?
“This wildly varies from person to person,” says Judith Sills, Ph D, a Philadelphia-based psychologist and author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.
“Everyone ends a relationship by grieving the emotional investment.