Others ascertain that you can't put a timeline on healing a broken heart (also a great excuse for eating your face off and crying into a bucket of KFC well past the one-year mark).
And if you're Taylor Swift, you're pretty much screwed.
Yes, you need to heal for sure and dating others when you are hurting isn't easy because it reminds you what you're missing.
She did it anyway in an attempt to learn how to get over a broken heart. You just have to believe it that this one, too, shall pass. For any of you who have been dumped, don't sit around mourning.
Taking a break from dating after a breakup isn't just about licking your wounds, though—it's also about figuring out what you've learned and can carry over to your next relationship, says psychologist Sanam Hafeez, Psy. "The ends of relationships teach us so much about ourselves: our style of communication, whether that style is effective or not, how we handle insecurities, conflict, and co-existing as an individual and as part of a two-some simultaneously," she says.
You want to make sure you're not still in post-breakup mode.
You have to get past the (valid and often necessary) stage of curling up on your couch and really mourning the loss of your relationship and to the point where you're back in the swing of work, hobbies, friends, and everything else your life normally includes.
If your friend is still bothering you six months later with details of her breakup, using any of the above as justification for her misery, you can now shut her up with this finding: Scientists in the Journal of Positive Psychology found that 11 weeks after experiencing a breakup, 71 percent of participants were able to view their relationship in a positive light.
They agreed with positive statements, such as “I have learned a lot about myself,” “I have grown as a person,” and “I am more goal-oriented.” Kind of like that Britney Spears song, “Stronger.”Sure, you still might want to ruin your ex-partner's life (calm down, Taylor), but at least you'll realize that yours isn't completely over yet.