To tell men NOT to feel this way would be akin to telling them not to breathe.Now, I don’t always agree with all of the conclusions that Rudder draws from his Ok Cupid data.You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, much less anyone their own age? ) And I obviously have the matching theory as to why to go along with it (naturally, it involves being the younger sister).They have a specific, thought-out reasoning as to why they're only romantically compatible with guys who are older… Throughout my entire love life — or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, some for longer than others — I have never so much as lusted after any guy who is younger than I am. Without going too much into my dating career, the main factor in all of my relationships — significant or otherwise — has always been the man's age.Of course, when you flip the data around and look at what age men find women most physically appealing, you get an appalling answer. It’s shocking to see on paper, but not so surprising if you’ve ever talked to an actual man, read a men’s magazine or looked at porn intended for men.Instead of the female curve, which suggests that 34-year-old women like 34-year-old men, men find 20 year-old women most physically appealing, no matter how old they were. This doesn’t mean that 40 year old men want to MARRY that 20 year old woman, only that they find her the most physically appealing.To engage with an older guy is to peek inside a different point-of-view on life.
Thus, we ladies have looked to older men to fulfill those more grown-up needs. While statistics can, theoretically, be used to prove/disprove anything, smart people can usually see through the lies to focus on the numbers.Christian Rudder, president of Ok Cupid, is the guy who digs up the numbers from the millions of people using his free dating site.We are getting rather serious, and we both love each other deeply, but I could never stop worrying about her being 6 years older than me...My girlfriend was a virgin when we met and I was the first guy she's been in bed with.