As one reader put it, "I'm not saying that everyone should be a stalker, but sincere persistence is flattering and usually catches my attention eventually." Similarly, my writer friend Diana Spechler said: "Persistence is hot, unless it's creepy.There's a fine line."I usually don't yield to persistence myself.
So, in my experience: Stick to what you did when you first met her, and what you were doing when her interest started to wilt. Let me put it another way: what you read here is designed to trigger certain sub-conscious reactions that are general to all women.The following tip is actually a follow-up posted on the Don Juan Discussion Forum by someone known as "The Main Event." It was in responses to an article I wrote a while back called "Confident Persistence." TME did a nice job, so I've included it here as a tip. They can afford to take their time deciding about a particular guy, even if he is their type. Back in your days as an amorphous and insecure chump, it meant that you were going to panic, wonder what's not pleasing her, change seven or eight fundamental character traits, get a new wardrobe, change to a new religion... But we know from your real-life example that suddenly coming on hard, abruptly trying to correct every minor flaw that may or may not have offended her and generally behaving like a second-class citizen didn't help.all in the hopes of fixing up whatever perceived or real flaw was discouraging her. Think of six women who you initially thought may have liked you... then suddenly she ran for the hills whenever she saw you walking in her general direction. Play it through in your mind, asking yourself, "Now that I'm a Don Juan, what would I do to get her interest up to the point that it appeared to be at when I first met her?There is the guy who keeps trying and the girl doesn’t respond or asks him to go away, and then there is the guy who keeps trying and gets the girl. The guy who doesn’t get results and is persistent is usually coming from the angle of wanting and needing the girl.When he doesn’t get the girl, he judges himself and generally feels bad about himself and who he is.