It can bring out feelings of guilt or betrayal in the widow or widower.
It can also bring out feelings of confusion and concern from friends, family, and those who were close to the deceased spouse.
After having been married, possibly for many years, and going through the trauma and grief that comes with the death of a spouse, widows and widowers may find dating daunting. There are many right answers to these questions, and it all comes down to what makes the widow or widower comfortable.
Should one date exclusively or date several people at the same time, and should it be casual or serious?
However, dating should not be a therapy session, according to Keogh.
If you find yourself needing to have lengthy conversations about your late spouse and your grief, invest in professional help rather than unloading an emotional burden on to your date.
Keogh also writes that it’s natural for your date to want to know about your late spouse if he didn't know him while he was alive.
But just becomes it's relatively easy to find a potential partner doesn't mean you should start dating before you think about your goals and desires.Peterson has several friends who stopped going to church after their spouses died, and they are still struggling. There were actually people who survived,” Peterson says. At first you will need it to heal, but there will come a point when you’ll need to start dealing with your new life on your own, says Kelly Kimber, who lost his wife at age 45.Staying active in the Church and keeping her testimony were the most important aspects of her healing process. “The longer I stayed in my widow/widower group, the longer I stayed hooked into the whole philosophy of ‘I’m a widower. Poor me.’ I chose to break away from that group, and that was like the next phase of being able to move on.”“If you let yourself, you can stay in bed all day and just sleep,” Peterson says.It's my job not only to teach them some new skills about dating, but to calm their fears.I reassure them by saying that taking that first step is the hardest part.