Being black in this country often requires you to explain yourself in settings where you are the clear minority. I don’t like having to explain why it’s okay for me to use “the n-word” and not you, or why you shouldn’t touch my friend’s hair, no matter how tempted you are.
I never want to have to yell out something like “cuz I’m black b—-!!!!
And oftentimes, it's the seemingly innocuous pickup lines that do the most damage.
Disturbing lines: One man in the video recounted the night he was approached and told, "Oh my gosh, I've totally never dated a black person before, but if I did, I'd totally get with you." Johnson remembered the time a man put his hand on his shoulder outside a club and said, "You know, Cameron, I'm really into mulatto guys." "You know what, I'm not really into ethnic guys," another participant once heard.
Stereotypes emerge: One reason such pickup lines are so insidious is because they play on long-established stereotypes of the black gay community.
"I guess the biggest stereotype is that black men are just penises with Timberlands attached, and that whatever we have to offer sexually is our only value," Johnson told Mic."For the black gay community, the self-imposed stereotype is that there's only one way to be a gay black man.
I’m quickly approaching my 25th birthday and have come to the realization that I’ve never been in a long-term relationship. That's not uncommon among millennials, but as a Black gay man, I've begun to wonder how my race has affected my chances of finding love.
I had just told her about a friend of mine predicting my future, which involved an interracial marriage, the two of us remodeling a brownstone and being featured on HGTV.What kind of lines do gay men of color really hear when they're out at a bar?Filmmaker Cameron Johnson set out to discover just that with his new short documentary, You're Cute for a Black Guy.While I may flirt or develop friendships with other Black gay men, I’ve never seriously pursued a relationship with one.When I’m on Tinder, the men I’m more likely to swipe right are usually athletic white men between 21 and 30.