Because when you’re dating online, which is an extremely competitive medium, you need every advantage you can get.A great username is a differentiator – a unique brand name – something that completely sets you apart from every other person on a dating site.I don’t attribute this to an alignment of stars, to the mercy of the web gods and goddesses, or even to OKC’s algorithm, which supposedly uses questions such as “What’s worse, book burning or flag burning? Instead, I chalk up my positive online dating experiences -- which, with the exception of a brazen date who rudely shushed fellow theatergoers (referred to amongst my friends henceforth as “the shusher”), has been without horror stories -- to my careful evaluation of a potential match’s username before arranging a date.Puns and hyper-masculine references were mostly no-gos.You’ve been around the block a couple times and know it’s important to write customized messages to each person.But the fact is, it’s been a long day and But coming up with a clever name can be a struggle.If you consider your online dating profile to be your personal advertising tool in the dating world, your username is your brand’s mission statement.
Admittedly, my personal history of username selection isn’t without blemishes.Men like and notice confidence, attractiveness, independence and acknowledgement from women.Knowing this about men should give you some insight into what matters to guys and how you can appeal to his wants and desires. The first step before trying to create your username is to brainstorm everything there is to know about your descriptive CHARACTER TRAITS which could easily describe who you are: • Accepting • Adventurous • Articulate • Bold • Brave • Confident • Compassionate • Daring • Energetic • Joyful 2.There’s nothing unique, memorable or distinguishing. One of my favorite usernames was The Goose Whisperer, written for a client named Bobbi in 2005. So if you’re wondering how to come up with a clever name that gets attention, and attracts a like-minded person with a great sense of humor, I have an exercise that can help you come up with usernames just like the ones I mention above.Bobbi had a farm with geese in the yard and instead of using The Horse Whisperer, which was way too overdone, we changed one word to great effect. It’s in Volume 2 of my Finding the One Online audio series, and is the cherry on top of your new online dating experience.